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November 8, 2009 at 7:20 am Leave a comment

Be Tolerant…The World Needs It.

Another post from The Mindset Email. Enjoy!

Mindset for the day:
Be Tolerant…Because there is a shortage of tolerance in this world. Are you tolerant of other people, places and things? Do you allow for differences to exist around you without talking them down in your mind or with other people. Here is the joke…What you won’t tolerate still might tolerate you! Who’s better…You decide?

One thing I realized a long time ago was that if everyone thought like me, acted like me, dressed like and did what I did…THE WORLD WOULDN’T WORK. It would be a complete disaster. That’s not to say that I’m a mess, there simply wouldn’t be enough diversity to have the world function. So, why would I criticize that which makes the world actually work? I’ll tell you why…FEAR, INSECURITY and IGNORANCE.

Fear…That they may do something to me, make me look bad or be better that I am.
Insecurity…About what I cannot do, cannot be or mistakes that I might make along the way.
Ignorance…About other people and why they do what they do. It’s easy to criticize another when you haven’t done time in their shoes. There are differences that exist between cultures that I may never understand because my culture has taught me something different. Not to mention, it wasn’t even like I got to choose what I was taught…That’s just the way it is so I picked it up. For example, men are supposed to hold the door open for women in my culture. Is this true in other countries and cultures? Are they wrong for not doing it? Would I have a right to get upset if a man from another culture walked in front of my wife to enter a doorway first? Would it serve he and I better if I practiced tolerance?

The Problem:
We act like what we know is the way it should be for everyone. In most cases, what we know wasn’t even a choice. It was inherited via family, religion, culture or country. As a result, when something out of the norm shows up, we criticize it and deem it as wrong.

The Action Step:
Realization and self discipline are the forefront of today’s action step.

  • Realize that there are differences in the world and they are okay.
  • Realize that underneath the differences is a person just like you, who inherited habits and beliefs, and is trying to win the game of life and make it in today’s world.
  • Have the self discipline to not disregard them as people.
  • Have the resolve to allow them to be who they are.
  • Utilize your self discipline to extent an invitation or a hello to that person with the understanding that they might be weary of you too.

Enjoy being a more powerful you…Have a fantastic day!
Matt “The Ways of Being Guy”

“The greatest gift you can give yourself is to be who you want to be…no matter what. There is no greater feeling of power, confidence and self control.”

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©2009 Matt Brown

September 30, 2009 at 12:49 pm Leave a comment

Get your Mind Set…Motivate Yourself

Another post from The Mindset Email.Get your Mind Set!

Mindset for the day:
Be Motivated…Because that’s what will get you out of bed and ready to DO LIFE!  What is important to you?  What do you love to do?  If you already know,  all you need to do is keep reminding yourself.   Life is busy and we often forget what matters most to us.  THE GOAL…Keep doing what you love to do because that will have you feel motivated about your life when you wake up each day.  Motivation does not show up out of thin air, it is sought after and created over and over again.  Keep your eye’s on the target!

The Action Step:
Get your pen and paper.  Let’s make a list.
Write down the 5 most important things in your life.  Create a way to motivate and inspire yourself in each area.  In doing so, you will be inclined to take new actions thus, creating more opportunity for yourself and other people.

Enjoy being you…Have a fantastic day!
Matt “The Ways of Being Guy”
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“The greatest gift you can give yourself is to be who you want to be…no matter what.  There is no greater feeling of power, confidence and self control.”

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©2009 Matt Brown

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September 18, 2009 at 6:38 am Leave a comment

Make Sunday a Fun Day.

Another post from the Mindset Email!

Mindset for the day:
Be Fun…It’s Sunday!  Finish the weekend doing something FUN.
Step outside of the norm, bust up your routine and go have fun.  Think back to when you were a kid.  What was fun?  Today, let’s bring some of that stuff back.  Find an ice cream shop and go sit and have a big ice cream cone…The kind you have to eat before it melts.  How about the movies…Go see the one that excites you the most.  Simply commit to having fun.  If  you’ve forgotten how, find any kid and ask them to give you an idea or two.  You’ll be amazed at how simple and easy it for them to suggest something fun.

The Action Step:
Get your pen and paper.  Let’s make a list.
Think back to when you were 5, 10, 15 or 20 years old.  List one thing that you thought was fun at each age.  From this point it’s really simple…DO THE LIST!  Spend Sunday being a kid again.

Enjoy being you…Have a fantastic day!
Matt “The Ways of Being Guy”
info@TheMindsetEmail.com
“The greatest gift you can give yourself is to be who you want to be…no matter what.  There is no greater feeling of power, confidence and self control.”

You got your “Mind Set” by The Mindset Email.

©2009 Matt Brown

August 30, 2009 at 9:45 am Leave a comment

Are You Attractive Enough to Attract Opportunity.

Another post from The Mindset Email…Sign up now for your free month.

It’s time for your MINDSET Email!

Mindset for the day:
Be Attractive…Because being unattractive can keep people at bay.
Being attractive is more than how you look.  Some people are blessed with good looks and others…Not so much.  How you look has very little to do with how attractive you are.  I’m sure you know someone who is a knock out and a pain in the A$$ too.  They are just good to look at because dealing with them is way to much work.  So…I’ll ask you this.
Do you attract people?  If not…Why not?  Let’s take a look at a few qualities and characteristics that people find attractive.

Attractive vs. Unattractive
Kind vs Mean
Compassion vs Indifference
Generous vs Stingy
Enthusiasm vs Apathy
Real vs Bullshit
Open-Minded vs Narrow-Minded
Optimism vs Pessimism
Helpful vs Useless
Courage vs Coward
Fun vs Boring
A Smile vs A Frown
Honesty vs Deception
Attentive vs Disinterest
Where do you find yourself?  Where do other people find you?  Take a look and be bold with yourself.

The Action Step:
Take a hard look at the list above.  How often do you exist on the left side of that list?  Do a self assessment by asking yourself how often you are engaged in those characteristics that attract other people, opportunity and good fortune.  Write down what you could work on now that would make a difference immediately.  If you want more for yourself and your life you may want to tackle those things about yourself that are getting in your way.  No one is perfect and if that’s what you’re after…You’re fighting a battle that cannot be won.  However, taking on the MINDSET that you will always strive for more from yourself builds confidence, security and makes you attractive…Life exists in the journey.

Enjoy being a more powerful you…Have a fantastic day!
Matt “The Ways of Being Guy”

“The greatest gift you can give yourself is to be who you want to be…no matter what.  There is no greater feeling of power, confidence and self control.”

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©2009 Matt Brown

August 18, 2009 at 6:50 pm Leave a comment

Be Forgiving…Hanging on is to shoot yourself in the foot.

It’s time for your MINDSET Email!

Mindset for the day:
Be Forgiving…Because hanging on to the anger and frustration is to squander the hours that might have been worth while.  I’ll say this once so listen up…If you are unwilling to forgive, the person who is sure to suffer is you.  The rest of the world is busy doing something else.
For the most part, people don’t think about you that much.  They are far too busy thinking about THEM SELF.  If you feel hurt or frustrated because of what someone has done to you.  They are probably more guilty of not thinking of you than directly trying to hurt you.   Being self absorbed is simply a condition of being human.  The survival mechanism in all of us says, “ME FIRST.”

If you’re anger is justified because someone has deliberately hurt you…Why continue to let them cause pain long after the fact?  If you want to get even…LET IT GO and think of them no more!  I’ll tell you a valuable piece of information that someone told me…You do not have to tell someone you’ve forgiven them to actually forgive them.

Sometimes people are so focused on being the top dog, winning and getting their way that they become oblivious to the harm they can cause.  Don’t hang on to anger because of someone’s stupidity or ignorance.  You will live a long miserable life if you do because stupidity and ignorance are an epidemic.

The Action Step:
Steps to LETTING GO…You may want a pen and paper for this.

  • Write down your resentments…The one’s that chew on your mind!
  • Prepare to read your list to someone else…If this makes your butt pucker, that means there are a few on there that you can let go of instantly.  These are the resentments that really have no merit.  Perhaps they are just to lame to speak of or they have run their coarse in time.
  • Actually read the list to someone else…Do this with someone who is more of an acquaintance as they are less likely to believe your bullshit, should bullshit exist.
  • Weigh your options…Check to see what you’re really gaining and losing by hanging on to your resentments.
  • Write down those resentments or unforgivables that you want to keep.  Now, carry them with you on a piece of 8.5 x 11 note paper for one week.  Don’t stuff them in your purse, brief case or pocket.  Fold the paper in half and actually carry it with you in one hand no matter where you go.

By carrying that paper around you will see first hand what a pain in the ass hanging on to a resentment can be…You’ve just taken those resentments and made them concrete by writing them down and lugging that piece of paper where ever you go.  Feel the work, the disruption and realize the burden you are placing upon yourself.

This exercise may seem way out there, totally radical or completely unreasonable…I HOPE THAT’S EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL.  It’s your piece of mind and happiness that are at stake.

Oh yeah…One more thing.  When you harbor resentments, hang on to your anger and want to make other people wrong for how they are…You have just turned into that person who is unaware of the damage they can cause.  You cannot compartmentalize anger…You carry it with you and it gets projected onto the people in your life.  You better hope they are forgiving with you!

GIVE IT UP…YOU’LL GET YOUR LIFE OUT OF IT!!!

Enjoy being a more powerful you…Have a fantastic day!
Matt “The Ways of Being Guy”

“The greatest gift you can give yourself is to be who you want to be…no matter what.  There is no greater feeling of power, confidence and self control.”

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©2009 Matt Brown

August 17, 2009 at 8:13 pm Leave a comment

Be Consistent…With The Right Stuff.

Mindset for the day:
Be Consistent
…Because repetition works!  There is a catch…Make sure you are consistent in ways that move you closer to what you want.  I’m sure you’ve done it, I know I have, you say you want one thing and then your actions aren’t consistent with what you want as the result.  When you find a way to be effective, stick with it and perfect it over time.   Never work against yourself!

The Action Step:
It’s time for a reality check.  Today let’s evaluate everything.  Take a look at what you do, and take a little time to see if you are spinning your wheels, back pedaling or moving forward.  Here are a few things to look for…

  • Are you wasting time pretending to be busy?
  • Does it take you 2 hrs to do a 20 task?
  • Do you make lists or do you think and then guess your way to the finish line?
  • Do you want to loose weight but you eat way to much.
  • Do you say you’ll do something…Tomorrow and then tomorrow again.

Be consistent with “the right stuff” and you will amaze yourself with the results.

Enjoy being a more powerful you…Have a fantastic day!
Matt “The Ways of Being Guy”

“The greatest gift you can give yourself is to be who you want to be…no matter what.  There is no greater feeling of power, confidence and self control.”

You got your “Mind Set” by The Mindset Email.

©2009 Matt Brown

August 17, 2009 at 7:37 pm Leave a comment

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